Tuesday, March 15, 2011

I Need...

Hello, napptural divas (and the men who love us)!!! It's been eons since I've written (here), but I've been a busy, busy bee! (I know, no excuses!!). My hair has grown exponentially (YAY!), but I still have issues with it being dry. I was about to type "coarse", but I realized I'll probably always have coarse hair (it's just the texture, no soft and wavy here), but dry can be fixed. My main natural hair need is a really good leave-in conditioner. I've heard many people mention Hair Milk by Carol's Daughter, Shea Butter Leave-In by Cantu, Knot Today by Kinky Curly, and Soothing Hair Milk by Garnier Fructis. So, I've tried the Hair Milk (not a big fan) and the Soothing Hair Milk (I actually like it). I've very anxious to try the other two products to see if they work on my hair. But I'm also anxious to hear any suggestions.

Another problem I have is wanting to buy a whole bunch of stuff when I go to the hair store or Target. I don't necessarily NEED anything (except the leave-in conditioner) but I look at shampoo, conditioner, curly puddings, and the like. Thankfully, I don't need an intervention, but I need someone to tell me it's ok to be happy with what I have.

Lastly, I need some new styles. This may sound crazy, but my hair has gotten too long for a braid out. Last week I braided my hair (after not having done so for about a year), and my hair was sticking straight up!!! Not a cute look. I realize that twist outs are much better for me. My co-workers jokingly called me "Sunburst" last week. As I stated here before, I have 4B type hair. So even though I found a girl whose hair is great, I don't think her style is going to work for me...but I may be wrong. I need to find that YouTube video again...

So I don't seem like the needy girlfriend, I want you guys to tell me what you need from me! Do you need tips, suggestions, advice, a shoulder to cry on, anything??? I'll share the little bit of knowledge I have!! Since it's been a while since some of you have seen me, I'm sharing a few photos, one even taken today after a fresh twist-out. (Oh, on my hair last night, I used the Garnier Fructis Soothing Hair Milk, Jamaican Mango and Lime Locking Creme Wax, and Miss Jessie's Curly Meringue, which I'm actually growing to love.) I used the milk and wax all over (too avoid adding to much product to my hair) and added the meringue to individual sections of my hair before twisting it. Until next time, stay nappturally beautiful!!!


Me in December 2010


Me on NYE 2010 (Don't worry, it didn't last! :))


Me in Feb 2010


Me last month at my PT job


Me today!

Tuesday, November 16, 2010

I've Found It!

Happy Tuesday, napptural divas! I have FINALLY found some products that I love to give me the look I like. As I've mentioned before, I love just about anything from Miss Jessie, and now I've paired her Curly Pudding with the Curling Custard from Kinky Curly. I do have to say that using the Curling Custard from Kinky Curly by itself did not turn my hair into what I wanted it to be. After some research, I discovered I was a 4B (find your hair type here). But I would like my hair to be curly, like it is right after I've washed it. I was hoping using the Curly Custard would help achieve that. Yeah, I was wrong. When my hair dried, it was a nice, tight, TWA aka teeny weeny afro...I hate those. The next time I washed my hair I put on the leave-in conditioner, the Curly Custard all over, then I parted my hair and put it in two strand twists. For each section, I put a little of the Miss Jessie's Curly Pudding on. I let my hair dry as I slept. When I woke up the next morning, I had nice ringlets that I LOVED! I know what works on my hair to achieve a certain look. I will probably try cornrowing my hair again, but in the meantime I like twisting it because it leaves my hair curly and (most importantly) it's less time consuming.

I'm still looking for a leave-in conditioner to use. I do have the Black Vanilla Raspberry conditioner from Carol's Daughter. And I've found Fruits and Berries from Oyin Handmade. I actually need to start using more of their products. What items do you use? Do you have a leave-in conditioner or any other product to suggest using? I can't wait to see your suggestions. Continue to stay nappturally beautiful!

P.S. Don't worry; I'll post pictures soon! :)

Wednesday, October 13, 2010

Happy Black Girl Day-Breast Cancer Awareness Month


Hello, natural divas!!! Today is Happy Black Girl Day, and in recognition, today's post will be all about taking care of self. October is National Breast Cancer Awareness Month, and there are all types of walks, fundraisers, and prevention awareness. The most important thing that we must do is conduct a monthly breast exam. Check in the mirror, feel in the shower, even have your mate feel your breast to see if there are any abnormal lumps. To make things easy, pick a date each month, like your birthdate or favorite number, to check yourself. Next, know that there are foods that aid in the prevention of breast cancer, specifically for African-America women. Those foods are broccoli, greens, and carrots. Having two of these veggies per day reduce your likelihood of developing breast cancer. Lastly, know your risk factors. Have your family members had cancer? If so, not only should you be checking at home, but you should also get checked during your annual check-up with your physician.

I recently met a breast cancer survivor a few weeks ago. This person was a man-yes, men can get breast cancer, too-who discovered he had breast cancer while training for a track meet. He had bleeding from his chest, but ignored it. As he was training, he got injured and had to go to the doctor. When asked if he was suffering from anything else, he mentioned the bleeding. It was discovered he had Stage 3 breast cancer and probably wouldn't live to see 31. Add to this the fact his grandfather was dying of cancer as well didn't help. I am happy to report this young man celebrated his 31st birthday last week and has recovered 100%!

So yes, I know this is Happy Black Girl Day, but any story of triumph belongs to us all!!! See what you can do to support breast cancer in your neighborhood, and make sure that you are always aware. Stay nappturally beautiful...and healthy! (Don't forget to wear your pink ribbon this month!)

Tuesday, September 21, 2010

Is Natural Hair Professional in the Workplace?


Happy Tuesday! Veronique George of Naturally You-The Hair Journey will be a guest blogger today on the diaries. She has written a post today regarding natural hair in the workplace. When I first decided to go natural, I struggled with my decision in regards to how it would be received when I worked in corporate America and had some of the concerns mentioned in this post. So, enjoy the post, feel free to comment and share your experiences (good and bad), and definitely check out Veronique’s blog!

Watching me, watching me

Watching me, watching me

Watching me, watching me

Watching me

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And you keep sayin’ that I’m free

And you keep sayin’ that I’m free

And you keep sayin’ that I’m free…

Many times African-American and other multicultural women who wear their hair natural are not considered professional or conservative in the work place. Instead of embracing natural hair, businesses sometimes shun, or even discourage, it. After working in some of Corporate America’s top companies, I believe that natural hair is not accepted in the workplace because employers and their employees do not know what to make of it. They look at natural hair and think, “Why is it so curly? Why does it look like that? Why can’t they comb their hair?” Most companies have an idea of what professionalism is, and most times it does not include tightly or loosely coiled curls, braids, two-strand twists, and the like. It does not look like a large afro or even an afro puff tilted to the side. Rather, professionalism is limited to the constraints of long, straight hair and even pulled back in a pony tail depending on how conservative the company may be.

Long, straight hair may be a preference even if you are natural. That is fine if women choose to do so because they want to. However, a work environment that only accepts or encourages that particular hairstyle may not be a healthy situation for natural hair wearers or the company. I have heard a lot of women say to me that they have considered going natural for a long time, but they have to wait or they just cannot do it right now for whatever the reason may be. It is very disheartening to know that women want to wear their natural hair, but are afraid because they may lose their jobs or even credibility from their counterparts. Natural hair is not a rebellious act of free speech or entitlement; it is your hair, my hair, our hair. It is an extension of the divine will of the Most High and there is nothing unprofessional about that. Our hair is an extension of who we are, our adornment. Our intricate styles dates back to Zulu women of the Congo region and beyond and celebrate our rich history.

Rather than shying away from women with natural hair, businesses have to learn to embrace them. In doing so, they embrace themselves, by embracing their consumers and the world as we know it. Diversity of thought, culture, and even hair should be supported and celebrated. Work place environments should reflect the colorful DNA of the world and reflect the neighborhoods, grocery stores, beauty parlors, and shopping centers where companies conduct business.

Natural hair is here to stay. It is beautiful, it is professional, it can and cannot be “conservative.” It must become standard that when businesses hire minorities, including African-American women, they hire their hair as well. Now this does not mean women can nor should come to work without putting their best foot forward and properly caring for and maintaining their hair. But a job offer should not be contingent on the conditional statement: we will hire you if and only if you do something with your hair. Professionalism relates to the expertise and know-how you bring to the table, how you conduct yourself in business settings, and a well-kept appearance. Women with natural hair should not be watched, scoped, demoted, or considered not to be a “good-fit” in the workplace. Instead, they should be able to freely and unapologetically wear their natural hair tresses.

Veronique George, is a marketing and advertising consultant. She is also a natural hair consultant. Her blog, “Naturally You: The Hair Journey,” can be found at: www.hairspiration.webs.com

Tuesday, September 14, 2010

The Current State of My Hair

Hello, all! I know it's been awhile since I've posted here. I must admit I have been cheating on you with my other blog, Evolving Elle-Southern Girl in the City. And I was wearing some extensions during this summer. But I am back to being my natural, beautiful self!

As I stated in previous posts, my hair was damaged from straightening it so much, and I decided to give it a break. Well, the break is over! I've been wearing my hair for about 3 weeks now. My 10 year high school reunion is this weekend, and I decided to wear my natural 'do! It's shorter than I would like, but I'm learning to embrace the length and try styles that are suitable, doable, and low maintenance. I love wearing braid-outs, but sadly my hair isn't long enough for me to braid it, so I've been twisting it. I know some of you are thinking, "What's the difference?" Trust me, there's a big one!! I feel like with braid outs, my hair is wavier and fuller. Twist outs make my hair appear shorter and somewhat curly. So you get an idea of what my hair has looked like this summer, I'll post some pics, and I'll post a pic of my hair from last week.

If you have any suggestions on how I should wear my hair, please let me know! Oh, I can say that I try the Kinky Curly Curling Gel...yeah, I didn't like it. Based on my hair type, which I believe is a 4B, it didn't have the effect I wanted. I may experiment on Friday with some rods to get it ready for my official reunion dinner on Friday. I'll be sure to post some pics from this weekend and my experimentation. Until next time, stay nappturally beautiful!


DC Tech Opening Party May 2010


Jordan's 8 for a friend's birthday party July 2010


Anthony David performance at Live August 2010


Roland Martin and I at Howard University September 2010

Wednesday, June 30, 2010

Happy Nappy Day

I know, I know...it's been a while since I have posted. I hope you have missed me as much as I have missed you. I have been working on some other endeavors, but I will always have a love for my natural hair and you all! I know you're wondering what my hair looks like!! Well, I have finally gotten my summer 'do-- Two-strand twists, which a nice gentleman told me were beautiful yesterday when I was at Subway! (Pics are coming soon!) I thought what better way to come back to you all than to share an event that I'm looking forward to-Happy Nappy Day!!!

Happy Nappy Day will be held on July 11 in Baltimore at Gwynn Oak Park. This event is free to the public, and I am actually a little excited as I have never been to a natural hair event before. Poets will be there to perform, and organizers are looking for vendors. (Check out the site for more information.) I will be sure to share my experiences with you guys (and some tips I learn)! I hope to see you all there, even if you're not natural. Until next time, stay nappturally beautiful!

Wednesday, June 9, 2010

Happy Black Girl Day

Happy Black Girl Day!!! For those of you that don't know what HBGD is, it was started by The Beautiful Struggler as a way for us to celebrate the Black woman as opposed to degrading, diminishing, and belitting. To do my part, I will be highligting various Black women in all walks of life to highlight us as beautiful, happy, successful people. Today's post will highlight my favorite Natural Sistas!


- Jill Scott- This woman's style is AMAZING! I love her hair, her clothes, her aura-she just seems like a very natural, earthy, happy woman. (And it doesn't hurt that I get a lot of "You look like Jill Scott"s!! :) In all seriousness, she's great, and I look to her for inspiration.


- Chrisette Michelle- I love her new haircut, and for awhile was tempted to get my hair that short (I have re-considered that decision). She's another black woman who exudes confidence, charisma, and a fierce style.


- Corinne Bailey Rae- I love her ringlets. (And have attempted to create my own on more than one occasion!) She always looks so fresh and youthful. It's hard not to love her hair.


- Lauryn Hill- No matter how she rocks it, she looks great!


- Erykah Badu- Regardless of what you think of some of her actions, Ms. Badu's style has always been in a class of its own, including her tresses!

I love how we, as Black women, come in all hues, shapes, sizes, personalities, and so does our hair! If our hair isn't together, we don't feel together. So, who's your natural girl inspiration? Feel free to share and name people that I completely forgot about!! Until next time, stay nappturally beautiful